Why People Don’t Want To Go To Counseling

If we are sick with a fever or feeling pain in any part of our body, no matter how severe or minimal the condition, we immediately consider seeing a doctor and have it evaluated. We are afraid that it could be cancer or any chronic medical disease. But when we are having some psychological issues or mental concerns, going to therapist, counselor, psychiatrist or psychologist, we are beating around the bush and would not normally think about it.

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The following are known reasons why people don’t want to see a counselor or get involved in a talk therapy.


  1.   This too shall pass. Denial – this is the first thing that they will say. They think that it’s a phase of life that they are experiencing without the consideration how significant is getting help from a mental health professional can provide them. 

Solution: There are certain things in our life that we need somebody to help us. Believe it or not, the burden that we carry inside ourselves will be much lighter when we start to share our problems with a person that can offer pieces of advice. It may not be the ultimate solution to our problem, but it’s a start to think of alternative options and ways to handle the stressful conditions in our lives.

  1.   Time factor. They always rationalize that they are too busy to arrange an appointment or no time at all to visit one.

Solution: Prioritization is the key here. Make it a priority to visit a therapist. If you have time to meet friends and watch a movie, then for sure you have time to set this one up. It’s all about conviction and determination. Make the initial move now.

  1.   Location problems. Another common reason is they don’t know any therapist in their area or don’t know where to find one. 

Solution: In today’s digital technology, online therapy is an acceptable form of finding advice. BetterHelp is an excellent online therapy provider that caters to mental health issues. No need to make an appointment because a therapist or counselor is available 24/7. 

4.    High-Cost of Therapy. There is this constant notion that talk therapy may cost too much and one cannot afford to pay up front, or it is not covered by their health care plan.

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Solution: Before setting the appointment, you can ask if the therapist that you have selected is using a sliding scale. This is very practical and reasonable method because they will have to look at your income then they set their professional fee on your capability to pay. If you have insurance, call them and inquire about coverage. For sure, they have provisions for mental health that you can avail. Lastly, visit your company’s counselor (if you are working) or your local charities and churches. Parish counselors are trained and adept in handling crisis and can provide psychological help if you need it. 

5.    I am not insane! Well, okay, nobody is saying that you have a mental illness. Only the doctor can diagnose that. 

Solution: It is critical that you make your mental health a priority just like any medical issues. It has been going on for ages the stigma surrounding mental health – that when a person sees a therapist, he/she is then labeled to have a psychological disorder. It’s not always that way. Our mind needs the intervention too just as our physical being does. 

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Human behavior dictates that if there’s a will, there’s a way. If we value our mind just like we appreciate and give importance to our body, we can make appropriate steps to make sure that we receive psychological services from time to time or during ardent needs. We no longer live in the dark ages when mental health issues are considered taboo. It is high time that we set things straight and be an example to others who are also in this dilemma.

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