Changing Careers: Is it Possible?

“I am 45 years old and I have been thinking about changing careers. Presently, I am a trader and the nine to five schedule is draining me out. I want to get hold of my time and I think I can do much. Plus, it’s no longer making me happy. My stress level is always on the roof and it’s hurting my family already”. Joey, Trader


Changing careers is common. The average person changes career at least 5-7 times and approximately 30% of the total workforce change jobs every 12 months. If you are like Joey, you should take consideration of the following: 

  • Do you have enough money for the transition period? Experts say that one should have at least six months equivalent of salary to help in the household expenses and other emergency situations while you are looking for a new job. If you haven’t reached this point yet, try saving for it before deciding to quit your current job. It’s always easier and you have much freedom if you have a standby fund to go to. Of course, you need to think of spending wisely which we’ll be discussing next.


  • Control your spending habit. If you’re used to having Starbucks coffee every day, weekend night outs, or some quarterly trips abroad, it is high time to do away with this momentarily and embrace frugal living. There is no guarantee when will you have the next stable job or project that can bring continuous salary to your bank account every month. If you are still looking for a job, it is best to tighten up some reins until you are sure that you can afford to spend some extra dollars on leisure.



  • Invest in your skills and knowledge. Changing careers is not just an overnight decision. If you don’t have the set of knowledge and skills required by your chosen career, then it will be difficult for you to land a job. Joey believes that he can do more being a freelance writer and can earn more by accepting writing tasks. Well, it is possible. But you must think of the other freelance writers in the market as well. There are thousands of writers who can just deliver the same task as requested. To give you a cutting-edge, learn other skills that can highlight your freelance writing activity. Get some training on how to write an e-book or making educational materials, etc. If you have more skills, your profile will be more marketable than the rest.



  • Does your family have your support on this? It is critical to have your family’s support and everyone pitching in to achieve daily struggles. It’s not practical to change career if you are the only one deciding on it. It’s good if you are single and living alone, but with a family to support to, everyone is going to be affected by this. Let them know ahead of time on what’s your plan and involve them in this transition period. There will be serious changes to take place in the family and you need to explain this to them. 


If you have some difficulty in decision making, you may need a career counselor to help you through this process. Career counselors are adept at guiding persons who have a dilemma in changing careers. They can provide advice on what’s the best possible thing to do and assist you while you are in this situation. BetterHelp offers 24/7 assistance on serious matters just like this one.

Pursuing Mental And Emotional Health As A Couple

It has been months since I’ve talked to my friend Amira, and I was embarrassed that we were talking about me and my unhappy moments. She said it was okay, of course, because we were friends since I don’t know when. But later as she shared her experience with her husband with me, I realized how intently I was listening to her because I knew my husband and I had to work on our mental and emotional health. 

It has only been three weeks since we started going to our therapist for marriage counseling. An article from BetterHelp encouraged me to give counseling a try. Mike and I have been having silent misunderstandings lately, and I have been hiding so much hurt and bitterness inside me that I couldn’t open up to him anymore. And he said he was doing the same thing as well. The counseling has helped us open up to each other slowly, encouraging us to share our pains and our feelings, and it felt really good. 

Amira had also been struggling to keep her marriage work, and after a year of therapy and effort from her and her husband, she said they were finally mentally and emotionally healthy, and very much in love. She gave me a few tips that they did to make their marriage work.

Emotional Health as a Couple


  • Understand each other’s personalities. Sometimes you need to give up what you love doing on your pastime, like reading a book in the afternoons, and accompany your husband who usually takes a walk. It wouldn’t hurt to go with him once in a while, maybe gives you time to talk about the kids – and about each other. 
  • Learn to help each other manage stress. It’s always easier to tackle life when someone’s there to help, especially with reducing stress. You can talk with your kids together about concerns in school or with their friends. Share the chores in the house. My husband now shares how his day went in his office, and I do the same.

  • Express your emotions appropriately. We’ve also gone through fights where the neighbors would hear us and the kids would see us, and it wasn’t healthy for both of us, for our family. When I get mad or angry, I have learned from therapy to express to my husband how I truly feel by telling him in a controlled and civil tone – a tone that wants to be heard but still loves. 
  • Balance work and play. We work hard to live a good life. We’ve been working hard for quite some time but didn’t have ways to unwind in a healthy way. We then began our journey to physical and mental health when we decided to do yoga and meditation together. We slowly created a balance between work, fitness and whole lot of fun and laughter with family. The kids would sometimes join us for a run or walk in the park.

  • Give each other space. You have your own set of friends to spend time with and work related issues to take care of. More importantly, each of you needs time for yourselves – a little time apart – because you are your own person. 


  • Have a positive outlook. Life doesn’t always come in reds and pinks, but also comes in greys and blacks. When you’re together, you can weather the storms and stay positive amidst the not-so-good circumstances. Be positive and be healthy – mentally, physically, and emotionally. 


Why People Don’t Want To Go To Counseling

If we are sick with a fever or feeling pain in any part of our body, no matter how severe or minimal the condition, we immediately consider seeing a doctor and have it evaluated. We are afraid that it could be cancer or any chronic medical disease. But when we are having some psychological issues or mental concerns, going to therapist, counselor, psychiatrist or psychologist, we are beating around the bush and would not normally think about it.


The following are known reasons why people don’t want to see a counselor or get involved in a talk therapy.


  1.   This too shall pass. Denial – this is the first thing that they will say. They think that it’s a phase of life that they are experiencing without the consideration how significant is getting help from a mental health professional can provide them. 

Solution: There are certain things in our life that we need somebody to help us. Believe it or not, the burden that we carry inside ourselves will be much lighter when we start to share our problems with a person that can offer pieces of advice. It may not be the ultimate solution to our problem, but it’s a start to think of alternative options and ways to handle the stressful conditions in our lives.

  1.   Time factor. They always rationalize that they are too busy to arrange an appointment or no time at all to visit one.

Solution: Prioritization is the key here. Make it a priority to visit a therapist. If you have time to meet friends and watch a movie, then for sure you have time to set this one up. It’s all about conviction and determination. Make the initial move now.

  1.   Location problems. Another common reason is they don’t know any therapist in their area or don’t know where to find one. 

Solution: In today’s digital technology, online therapy is an acceptable form of finding advice. BetterHelp is an excellent online therapy provider that caters to mental health issues. No need to make an appointment because a therapist or counselor is available 24/7. 

4.    High-Cost of Therapy. There is this constant notion that talk therapy may cost too much and one cannot afford to pay up front, or it is not covered by their health care plan.


Solution: Before setting the appointment, you can ask if the therapist that you have selected is using a sliding scale. This is very practical and reasonable method because they will have to look at your income then they set their professional fee on your capability to pay. If you have insurance, call them and inquire about coverage. For sure, they have provisions for mental health that you can avail. Lastly, visit your company’s counselor (if you are working) or your local charities and churches. Parish counselors are trained and adept in handling crisis and can provide psychological help if you need it. 

5.    I am not insane! Well, okay, nobody is saying that you have a mental illness. Only the doctor can diagnose that. 

Solution: It is critical that you make your mental health a priority just like any medical issues. It has been going on for ages the stigma surrounding mental health – that when a person sees a therapist, he/she is then labeled to have a psychological disorder. It’s not always that way. Our mind needs the intervention too just as our physical being does. 



Human behavior dictates that if there’s a will, there’s a way. If we value our mind just like we appreciate and give importance to our body, we can make appropriate steps to make sure that we receive psychological services from time to time or during ardent needs. We no longer live in the dark ages when mental health issues are considered taboo. It is high time that we set things straight and be an example to others who are also in this dilemma.

5 Benefitting Reasons To Join Support Groups

Support from family and friends is an essential component in coping with depression and anxiety. But, some sufferers do not enjoy this kind of treatment. That’s where support groups come in.


Support groups are a gathering of people who are suffering from the same mental illness or recovering from a traumatic experience. They are not alternatives to therapy, but many psychiatrists have recommended their patients to join support groups. Support groups give comfort to those who are in need, but they can do so much more than that. 


But, why should you join support groups? Well, we have compiled five reasons why you should do so. 


Making you feel less alone

When we are suffering from a mental illness or recovering from a traumatic experience, we feel alone. We begin to think that we are the only one who is experiencing these things; thus, other people can’t understand us. With support groups, however, you are surrounded by people who are suffering the same things and give you the comfort you need. 

Releasing your frustrations

To feel better, we tend to let everything out to our friends and family. But, most often, they won’t understand our feelings and say the wrong things. Sometimes, we can’t even talk about our feelings to friends and family. On the other hand, support groups are safe spaces to talk about our experiences. Everyone is understanding because they know your struggles. 


Learning new, better coping mechanisms


Other than talking about feelings, support groups also discuss coping mechanisms. For example, members can share what helps them relax after anxiety attacks. They can also recommend psychiatrists and doctors who might help improve our conditions or walk you through the treatment process. They can also teach you skills that’ll help you in the long run.


Allowing you to help others

You might not know this, but by sharing your experiences in support groups, you are already helping others. Sufferers tend to find inspirations from others. Through your stories, you can inspire others to find treatment, better coping mechanisms, or even hope. And the best part of helping others? You are also helping yourself get better by helping others find their way. 


Giving you a sense of hope

If you can inspire others, then others can also encourage you. Joining support group helps you find that sense of confidence that you have lost somewhere along the way. In support groups, you will know people who have overcome their experiences and came out as new, stronger people. These people are living examples that you too can survive this encounter and become stronger.


Support groups can help you for a million reasons other than these five. Not only will support groups assist you on your road to recovery, but you can also meet new friends along the way. So, go on and join one! You can visit BetteHelp to check support groups that are being handled by mental health professionals, just in case you are interested.